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Healthy Emotional Regulation - Episode 220
We all have numerous emotions daily and must learn how to identify and use them in our lives. But in today’s society we are often taught that healthy emotional regulation means having no emotion at all. In this...
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Why Do I Feel Worse When We Get Closer? - Episode 219
Healing from sexual betrayal in a relationship is not a linear process. Through the ups and downs both individuals may see glimpses of safety and security, while at other times vulnerability and fear. In this episode...
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Holding Space - with Heather Plett - Episode 218
“Holding Space” is a term that is becoming more popular, but can be difficult to define and conceptualize in language. In this episode, we are fortunate to hear from Heather Plett, co-founder of the International...
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The Difference Between a Passive or Proactive Recovery - Episode 217
During the process of recovering from betrayal trauma, couples will often find themselves in a passive or proactive state. In this episode we discuss how those who have betrayed trust are usually playing offense or...
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The Nuances of Forgiveness and Trust in Relationships - Episode 216
In the aftermath of a betrayal, there is a delicate balance between forgiveness and trust. Oftentimes trust is expected as quickly as forgiveness, but it is important to understand the differences between the two, and...
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Is Anger Necessary for Recovery? - Episode 215
I was recently asked a question by a client that I wanted to discuss with all of you. She has always considered anger as an emotion that was unhealthy, ungodly, and should be ignored, but as she is dealing with her...
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The Importance of Honesty and Transparency in Recovery - with Sathiya Sam - Episode 214
In this episode I am joined by my friend and colleague, Sathiya Sam. Sathiya shares his own journey of addiction and recovery and what he has learned through his own journey and through his time helping other men...
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What's Hijacking So Many Beautiful Relationships? - with Dr. Jacob Hess - Episode 213
Dr. Jacob Hess wrote an article in Public Square magazine that challenged the belief that we should abandon marriage if we're not feeling romantic or loving feelings for our spouse. He said that many of these...
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Can You Be in Recovery and Not Sober? - Episode 212
Recently I received a question from a woman whose husband is working to rebuild trust and recover from a pornography addiction. She shared that while he is making steps to change this part of his life, he still uses...
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What If You Can't Accept an Apology? - Episode 211
Even after a thoughtful and sincere apology, with no strings attached, we often find ourselves stuck in a place of being unable to accept an apology and move forward. In this episode, we follow up to last week’s...
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Improving Your Apologies - Episode 210
Apologizing can be as simple as an “I'm sorry” all the way to working through deeply complex injuries that leave both people feeling exposed and vulnerable. In this episode we discuss the basics of a strong apology...
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Four Phases of Healing After Sexual Betrayal - with Tammy Gustafson - Episode 209
Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in the healing process. After the chaos of discovery and early recovery, the rest can seem like a blur. My guest is Tammy Gustafson, therapist, coach,...
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